Wednesday, 21 September 2011

True Knot

When our second daughter Lizzie was born, we found that she had a true knot in her umbilical cord. What this means is that at some stage of the pregnancy Lizzie's movements inside the womb had resulted in her making a knot in her umbilical cord.  The knot looked like a granny knot in a piece of rope.

I discovered later that when a baby has a true knot in their umbilical cord it raises the chance of the baby dying in the womb fourfold. The reason for this is that the knot can cut off or restrict blood supply to the baby.

We have no idea how long Lizzie had a knot in her cord.  What we do know is that when she was born the knot in the cord was extremely tight.

Sarah had an extremely fast labour with Lizzie. Throughout the pregnancy Sarah suffered with severe pelvic, back and leg pain because of a condition called SPD. Such was the pain that Sarah could not even walk some days. We went to see the consultant who was not particularly helpful. Sarah's assigned mid-wife was also very unhelpful. Sarah asked her for help to get the labour going early, such as a sweep. She performed one at 38 weeks that didn't do anything and was reluctant to do another one until Sarah was 40 weeks pregnant. Through various circumstances out of our control we did not go and see Sarah's assigned mid-wife but another one for another check up at 38 weeks and 5 days. The mid-wife who we saw was really sympathetic to Sarah's physical problems and booked her in to be induced the next day, something the other mid-wife was not going to do. She then said that she would also perform another sweep to see if this did anything to help. This was at midday. By 1.30pm we were in the hospital.  At 3.21pm Lizzie was born.

Interesting isn't it...

One course of action could have lead to a completely different outcome.

Our lives are in the balance. One decision can have life long consequences.

I'll have one more drink...I'll be ok to drive...

Let's have sex...I don't need a condom...

I'll tell them I love them tomorrow...

You don't need a sweep...

Our actions matter. Our decisions matter.

The two greatest commandments are to love God and to love each other.  These are not merely spiritual niceties, but hugely significant ethical decisions and actions. The way in which we obey or disobey these commandments will have consequences that can stretch into eternity.

I find that something worth thinking about.

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